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7 red flags in a toxic relationship

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If you are already in a relationship ensure that these red flags aren’t a part of your relationship and if you are looking to be in a relationship keep a lookout for the red flags of a toxic relationship.

Without future ado, let’s take a look at 7 signs of a toxic relationship.

Disclaimer- This article is for educational purposes and is based on personal opinions. This article is not a substitute for professional advice, but general guidance. We advise you to always listen to your intuition and always do what is right for you. If you can relate to any of these signs, please do not take this feedback as an attack on your character. This article is meant to be a self-improvement guide for those of you who have been feeling a little stuck.

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  1. Controlling behaviour.
    “Where are you going?”, “By what time do you think you will be home?”, “who all will be there?” These are what concerns tend to sound like however when the same questions are phrased differently, they are controlling. Example: “Where do you think you are going?”, “I want you home by 10 pm”, “You can’t go if Seb is also there.” “You can only go out with the people that I know.”

A relationship involves two people who value each other’s opinions and respect their decisions no matter how similar or different they are. If your partner constantly makes decisions for you, it may be time to take a deeper look at your relationship.

  1. There is a lack of communication.
    Any long-term relationship, romantic or otherwise, is built on communication. A relationship is a two-way street where you and your partner meet each other halfway. If you tell your partner that something that they said or did has hurt your feelings and they answer with “that’s just who I am,” or they get defensive, or they make you feel crazy and question your own experience; the relationship in question isn’t a two-way street.

When you care about someone, you pay attention to their feelings, listen to what they have to say, and respect their limits.

  1. You put in far more than you receive.
    If you always feel that you’re putting in more than your partner, you’re undoubtedly exhausted, insecure, and perplexed, which may be a cause of concern. Every relationship requires a healthy balance of giving and taking, but the energy invested must eventually balance out.

  1. There are no boundaries in the relationship.
    Some relationships can be draining, particularly if the other person constantly contacts you for routine favors, unfeasible ideas, or gossip sessions. Physical or personal boundaries exist for a reason and should be respected at all costs. If your partner repeatedly or consciously crosses the line, it is a major red flag.
  2. Your partner uses your personal information against you.
    When the other person uses your personal information against you, you know you’re in a toxic relationship. Your personal information could be used to humiliate you in front of others or to push you into doing what they want. They may bring up old experiences of yours during a heated conversation and compare you to someone from your past.

This is a red flag of a toxic relationship.

  1. They do not acknowledge your relationship in front of other people.
    If you and your partner are in a healthy loving relationship, there is nothing to hide there.
    If your partner becomes enraged when you share your photos on social media or never wishes to introduce you to anyone from their personal life, only takes you out at night to places where no one would recognize you, they are most likely trying to conceal something.
  2. You are constantly surrounded by negative energy. Someone who is always dragging you down or holding you back from attaining your personal or professional objectives is an important red flag of a toxic relationship that you must look out for.

It’s perfectly fine if your partner asks you a couple of questions to help navigate your goals or if they warn you about the dangers in order to keep you safe, but when this becomes a constant source of negativity, it may be time to cut ties.

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